It All Starts from HOME.. :)

It All Starts from HOME..

Starting on with a phrase 

‘ When Home is good the World is good ‘

How one defines home is different for different people. But remember the word home always refers to ' FAMILY '. Staring on with parents to grandparents to spouse and children all play a part in making you the person that you are today as in character and behaviour majorly. Of course the world has its influence but the beginning is always from HOME. 

Now my dear, This particular part speaks on how parenting has an influence on children and what we can do to make the future a better place for generations to come. There is no particular formula for that but some of the basic mental preparations are discussed here.

A Child :

First of all what does ' Child ' mean to you or what do you think a 'Child' is?  Let me try to keep it simple, Now think of a clay that is given to you and asked to make some model out of it. The final output may or may not be what you expected to create.

Now relate this to a child, The child comes into this earth without any bit of idea about this world and you being the potter for the clay you are given, you start moulding it in a way you wish to mould it. 

Thus giving it an idea about life and people, giving it ideas about how to think and everything. As and when the child grows it happens to face some failures it breaks and thus you need to help in reshaping its life. So whatever you are today is because of your parents and whatever your child is going to be is because of you. 

Doing the Best Job Possible : 

What is good and what is bad is a very wide matter to discuss but few basic things that cause a psychological effect on child is what we need to focus. 

Psychologically the Behaviour of a person is mostly influenced by parenting. Take the example of movies like ‘ Psycho’ and a few others. Parenting done wrong makes the kid become a psychopath. Of course it's not the only thing but it all begins with what they were fed or how they were treated when they were a child. Remember, A child’s craving is very deep in terms of emotional attachment when compared to adults. 

Be the Support System : 

Support needs to come from home always.  

You teach your child all good values and inject your perspective into them in early stages. But the world is too wide and there are a lot of external factors that influence the child in many ways. These may at some point break the kid emotionally and mentally so deep, But during those tough times support should come from Home to bring them back on track.

A simple verse like ‘ I wish you could have not born ‘, ‘ I like …… more than I like you ‘ and few more words will have a deep impact on a child's behaviour. So, Giving them the proper amount of Love, Care and proper amount of strictness can make a healthy surrounding for the kid.

A Clay in Child’s Hand :

I don’t believe in Grown ups, Most of the grown ups today are still a child and that includes us. This world has lots and lots of things to teach us so we all are still kids, may be grown up kids.

If a Clay is given to these grown up kids, some might not know what to do with it, some might know only one thing and try to make the clay into that and get fed up if it doesn't go as such, one might easily make a proper model out of it.

But we can’t blame the grown up kid for falling into any of these categories, because that's how that grown up kid was brought up.

You Be Your Sculptor:

Khalil Gibran’s famous verse says - 

 “ Your kids came to this world through you but not from you and though they are with you they belong not to you “

Your kids need you only till a certain time of life, after that it’s their soul that is taking over their journey so being attached to parents can happen till last but all must remember and learn the art of sculpting oneself.

Learn to explore things that you haven’t been taught. Enjoy the journey and not just live by the rules when your soul has a different purpose that is unlike your parents.

You as a parent understand this purpose and learn to teach kids about sculpting themselves so that they grow stronger and let you be stronger by not expecting anything back from them as time flows..

You may be the kid that has the clay in hand and don’t know what to do or your parents could be the one for you but all these could be resolved by learning the art of Sculpting by yourself.

Remember It ALL STARTS FROM HOME..!!

Stay Positive, Teach good values and Be a Healthy Parent…